What My Painful Emotions Have Taught Me.

I have found out that painful emotions, such as anxiety, insecurity, and fear, are not only inevitable but also necessary for personal growth. Just like me a while ago, one might wonder why these gut-wrenching feelings happen to us in the first place. After some self-observation, I found that when I fully surrendered to heavy emotions, I felt more whole and connected to myself.

My theory is that when we stop fighting the negative feelings and emotions that arise inside of us and fully become one with them, we are ultimately led down a path to ultimate peace, self-security, and contentment.

One might counter this idea by suggesting to just redirect ourselves to focus on positive thoughts or do something to reach a better feeling. It seems to work at the moment and prevents us from getting wound up in these icky feelings. I mean, who doesn’t want to feel good?

However, these “feel good” distractions are a temporary band-aid for the deep wounds and traumas that surface in us. It’s almost as if the painful feelings rebound 10x harder when we run away from them.

I’ve found myself guilty of this. But, there came a point when I lost all motivation to run away from myself, including the scary emotions and thoughts. When I accepted exactly how I felt, the “icky-ness” of the feelings faded. I didn’t feel so horrible about that feeling after a while. In fact, I grew more confident and trusting with myself because I knew that I was capable of tolerating any amount of anxiety or fear.

Consequently, the fears and anxieties lost their tight grip on my life. I felt freedom within myself and more loving towards myself. Life didn’t drastically change, but the clouded lens I was operating from cleared up. It felt like the first deep breath after holding your nose.

I can confidently say that being open to feeling every emotion and thought I had made me feel more accepting of myself. I also wasn’t judging myself based on what emotions I was feeling. Most importantly, I was able to love myself more. The more deeply I felt these painful emotions, it was like I was unlocking a new level of self-love every time. Consequently, I was able to give love and receive love more deeply.

When these negative emotions “cleared up”, I noticed how I was creating space for more beneficial thought processes to flow in me. It was almost like the answers I was looking for just started pouring into my head. It is a magical experience that I am blessed to experience every day. I no longer feel pressured to pine away at myself or at people to give me any answers about anything,

I also noticed that I started needing less and less from external things. Being secure in my emotions didn’t put any specific feelings on a pedestal. As a result, I was never chasing external things that used to make me feel this way. This serene wave of contentment washed over me and has yet to leave.

I am driven to inspire people to confront their anxious and fearful feelings head-on because I want more people to connect with themselves more deeply and enjoy themselves. I invite everyone reading this to meet their scary emotions face-to-face because it might just do you more harm than good! 😉

I would love to hear your thoughts on my perspective in the comments below!