A Fascinating Perspective About Times We Hate

I’m sure we have all experienced a time period in our lives when we felt incredibly low. Depressed, attached, insecure, anxious; we’ve all been there. Even amongst that stress, we are having to live our daily lives, go on family trips, and get work done. Life is still continuing while we might feel stuck and at rock bottom.

For me, my entire sophomore year of college was one of those particularly difficult times. As much as I didn’t want to be in the specific situation I was in, I was there and couldn’t do anything about it. I craved to be present and enjoy my life while my overthinking and anxiety-driven thoughts seemed to have a chokehold on me.

I look back, particularly the November to April months, as much as I struggled, I created some of the most spectacular memories with special people. The problems I was having back then don’t possess the power anymore that they seemed to have at the time. In fact, my life was blossoming in ways I simply couldn’t see.

And that’s ok.

I was never forced to be somewhere I wasn’t. As much as I wanted certain things to change and wanted to improve myself, I only knew what I knew at the time.

And that’s ok.

I’ve learned to realize that there are no “right” or “wrong” experiences I am having. Every experience is allowed and is teaching me exactly what I need to learn to become who I want to be and achieve what I want. With this perspective, I have found no need to resist my current experience of life, whether it be overthinking or ecstatic joy. There is no need to control natural life processes that ultimately will get me to where I want. I no longer demonize experiences I used to hate and have actually made friends with things I once saw as monsters in my life.

After some time, I noticed how my specific drives, desires, and experiences made me learn important lessons about myself and developed individual confidence. I was actually being crafted into the very person I craved to be, only because of the precise experiences I went through. Even when I thought I screwed up horribly, I didn’t. Even when I thought everything went to waste, it didn’t. Even when I thought I should be doing better, I was doing just fine.

Looking back, I wouldn’t have wanted it any other way.

I encourage you to reflect on how even the worst times in your life yielded necessary growth that made your quality of life richer and helped you understand yourself better.

Notice how life might have been working out for when even when you couldn’t see it. Things worked out better than expected. You grew into someone stronger and better.

If you knew things were going to be just fine, how would you move? Would you embrace the process more? Would you be hating yourself or your life just as much? What if everything happening in your life right was leading you exactly to where you want to be?

Let me know your thoughts below. I am looking forward to reading them!