Your Life Doesn’t Suck. Here’s Why

“My life sucks.”

We’ve all said this more times than we can even recall. It’s become a religious phrase in our dictionaries. Our reasons for why our lives suck are endless: horrible self-talk, negative experiences, unfulfilling careers, heartbreak, and mental battles. There are countless solutions to combat these aspects: therapy, medication, distraction, etc. The list goes on. Eventually, people realize these solutions are like a drug: it feels incredible initially, and then we need more to get the same relieving effects. We end up at square one, feeling the same horrible emotions we were running away from, and beat ourselves up for the quality of our life.

The good news is this cycle ends. However, it only ends when we stop fighting ourselves and how we are in the moment. From personal experience, I realized there is no running away from “right now,” which means the emotions, scary stories, fears, and negative self-talk, are something I eventually surrendered to.

Sounds scary? It is, but it’s inevitable for everyone to become friends with the parts of them they are trying to run away from. The more I stopped fighting myself and let myself be as I was in the moment, sad, scared, depressed, and anxious, the heavy emotions and worries slipped away. Before I knew it, I lived happily without wondering where the pain went. It sounds too good to be true, but it all boils down to one concept: simply surrendering to the human experience. 

We all love to secure a positive perspective on a life full of roses and smiles. However, we hate the relentless crying, jittery anxiety, confusing pain, and gut-wrenching longing for peace. We are very fast to deny these painful aspects of the human experience, so when we have to bow down to them eventually, we claim our lives suck. We miss the moment’s beauty—the sweetness of the pain, the tenderness of the heartbreak, the beauty of the grief.

We are simply the medium of our experiences, not the experiences themselves. This realization helps us not cling to anything and allow whatever emotion or experience to come and go. Consequently, we grow less resistant to who we are.

The most significant outcome is knowing that nothing can stop you, and you do not need to be anybody specific to experience love, happiness, and success. Those pleasurable aspects of life effortlessly flow to you when you surrender to your current life experience.

This concept may seem counterintuitive. I’m telling you to let yourself be as you are, which could be scared, jealous, or hateful when you might want to be loving, secure, or content. The truth is that the human experience doesn’t run on logic. It runs on the allowance of the human experience. Our true nature is to not meddle with the human experience and let things come, be, and go. If this is the case, how can somebody complain about sadness? Why is it wrong if sadness is present in the human experience at this point? Why get rid of it? It’s here for a reason. There is always freedom in letting yourself be as you are.

I am not invalidating the current situation of your life. What I am doing is encouraging you to rest. Rest where you are, exactly how you are. You are who you are in this moment for a meaningful reason, even if you cannot accept it. Who you are paving the pathway for the future you crave. Who you are right now is curated perfectly in your life.

Who you are right now is perfection.