You Are Your Own Success Story

Recently, I experienced an incident that caused some painful emotions to resurface. Doubt. Pain. Self-loathing. I felt like I had hit the same wall I gave an arm and leg to climb over.

“Not again,” my brain helplessly cried. I felt like all the hard work and persistence I put into feeling better went to waste. I buried my face into my hands, barely registering the hot, angry tears soaking my palms and cheeks.

“What is wrong with me?”

“Why do I feel like this?”

We all find ourselves in this position more often that we would like to: facing an old pain that we barely made out alive from in the first place. We question furiously the purpose of our life and it’s experiences. We further validate our self-pity and feel like shutting out the world.

While I don’t have an answer to explain the reason behind specific life events, I can tell you that you DO emerge victorious. This looks different for everyone. For me, this meant finally shifting into a mindset that chose moving forward in the present moment rather than wallowing as to why certain things happened. This looks like wearing a smile across my face as I walked towards my university campus, feeling like myself again, and remembering how just a few days ago I felt pushed back into my old struggles.

“She’s back,” I thought to myself. The following thought turned my smile into a gleaming one:

“She’s back even again after all that.”

The realization that no matter how turbulent life could get, a more refined, strong, and experienced version of myself emerges like a prize every time, struck a chord in my heart. In that moment, I developed a strong sense of self-trust of “I got my back because I always emerge victorious,”. This is a guarantee of life that cultivates the most deep self-trust within myself. It’s almost as if every set back you experience is only there for an even stronger comeback. This comeback is equipped with the knowledge, experience, and grace to allow you to enjoy your life and the adventures it has in store for you.

There is not a single situation in your life that you have not gone through, made it to the other side, looked back and been proud of who you became through it, even if the journey was hellish.

This experience changed my relationship with myself immensely, showing that a self-loving, self-trusting, and self-understanding version of you always emerges to save you and take care of you.

I believe that specific life events are perfectly crafted for us because they equip us with the necessary tools and compassion to tend for old, unhealed wounds and experiences. This perspective can be integrated for someone who might be doing inner child work or focused on healing from trauma.

Life can be scary, unexpected, daunting, and confusing at times. Having a source of hope for things to be ok again is important. I believe that seeing other people’s stories can help us to see our own successes and use that as fuel that we are truly our own superheroes. It makes us believe that whatever we want for ourselves is possible and the only key is to keep going. The right insights, lightbulb moments, and mindset shifts will happen as and when they are meant to.

It can be painful seeing others having things figured out so easily when it’s taking you painstakingly-long years. This can make you doubt whether you are on the right path and easily cause you to beat yourself up for it. I’ve been in this boat for longer than I have wanted to. However, once I accepted that some things are the way they are, even if they didn’t look so pretty to me, I was able to embrace my thought processes and validate how I felt. This was incredibly transformative in how I treated myself and ultimately how I could carry myself with self-confidence and self-trust.

Now, I have full faith in how my life is now because I’ve been shown over and over again that the challenges I’ve faced simply build my confidence in my undeniable comeback. I hope that by reading this, I can help even one person see how they are truly their own superhero.